We investigate the nonlinear dielectric properties of 0.9Pb(Mg1/3,Nb2/3)O3·0.1PbTiO3 (PMN-PT) and Ba[Ti0.85,Sn0.15]O3 (BTS) paraelectrics experimentally and theoretically. We measure the nonlinear dielectric response in the parallel plate capacitor configuration, whereby we obtain the low frequency linear permittivity ([variant_greek_epsilon]33), and the higher order permittivities ([variant_greek_epsilon]3333,[variant_greek_epsilon]333333) at 298 K as [variant_greek_epsilon]33PMN-PT=2.1×10-7 and [variant_greek_epsilon]33BTS=4.1×10-8 F/m, [variant_greek_epsilon]3333PMN-PT=-4.9×10-20 and [variant_greek_epsilon]3333BTS=-7.3×10-21 F3 m/C2, and [variant_greek_epsilon]333333PMN-PT=7.6×10-33 and [variant_greek_epsilon]333333BTS=9.85×10-34 F5 m3/C4. By using a self-consistent thermodynamic theory in conjunction with the experimental data, we compute the E3 dependence of electrostatic free energy ΔG, the field-induced polarization P3, and the thermodynamic tunability ∂2P3/∂E32, and prove that electrostatic free energy has to be expanded at least up to the sixth order in the electric field to define the critical field |E3*| at which maximum tunability is attained. We also show that |E3*| is a function on |[variant_greek_epsilon]3333|/[variant_greek_epsilon]333333 only. Consequently, we find |E3*|PMN-PT=8.0×105 V/m and |E3*|BTS=8.6×105 V/m. We compute the engineering tunabilities as ΓPMN-PT=65% and ΓBTS=55%, and then define a normalized tunability ξ to take into account the |E3*| parameter. Thereof, we determine |ξ|PMT-PT=8.1×10-5%/V m-1 and |ξ|BTS=6.4×10-5%/V m-1. Our results reveal that |E3*|BTS>|E3*|PMN-PT although ΓBTS<ΓPMN-PT, unequivocally showing the need for defining a critical field parameter in evaluating the nonlinear dielectric response and tunability, in particular, and in nonlinear dielectrics in general. The results also indicate that the nonlinear dielectric properties of PMN-PT are an order of magnitude higher than that of BTS, which we discuss in the context of structure-property relations of relaxors. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]