A great many people in the community experience a range of chronic debilitating diseases that threaten their wellbeing and eventually lead to their death. The challenge for many practitioners is to provide care that is responsive to the needs of the patient, family and friends. This study seeks to examine this complex relationship and to explore the challenges, particularly the ethical challenges, faced by the practitioners in providing care that is acceptable to the individual, family and friends. The scope of this study, therefore, is upon the practices of oncology and palliative care nurses in three different organisational settings; an acute oncology ward, an acute palliative care unit and a specialist palliative care unit. An exploration of these practices is elicited by encouraging narrative accounts from the nurses working in these different care settings. The nurses were invited to explain their work as practitioners and encouraged to describe the challenges that they faced in the performance of that work. The accounts are devices for provoking reflection upon and questions about oncology and palliative care nursing practice. Therefore, these accounts should be seen as contributing to the conversation about how to care for people in these environments, not as definitive and universalistic claims about what happens in these settings. An analysis of the narratives of the participating nurses revealed many significant themes. There were also significant accounts of the quality of relationships nurses have with their surroundings which impact upon the quality of the care they provide. The key relationships mentioned by the nurses were: relating with patients; relating with family/significant others; relating with colleagues; relating with other health care professionals; relating with the institution; and relating with their profession. The significant themes, or meta-themes, to emerge from the accounts of the nurses were the types of agency encountered, the typ