1. Friends and lovers : competition for social partners
- Author
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Wyckoff, Joy Plumeri
- Subjects
- Evolutionary psychology, Aggression, Cyber aggression, Online aggression, Friendship, Competition, Social inclusion, Gossip, Indirect aggression, Social aggression, Social competition, Sex differences
- Abstract
Social relationships grant access to a variety of resources relevant to survival and reproduction. Such resources include access to mates, resources that influence one's mate value (e.g., social status), and direct or indirect benefits provided by mates themselves. Similar resources exist for non-mating social domains as well (e.g., friendships, kinships, business relationships). However, given constraints on time, energy, and cognitive resources, people can only hold a finite number of individuals in their social networks. Therefore, we must strategically deploy competitive tactics in order to acquire and maintain cooperative social relationships. The strategies and tactics employed in competing for social relationships are explored here through an evolutionary lens. In Chapter 1, I introduce the topic of competition for mating and non-mating relationships from an evolutionary perspective. In Chapter 2, I present two studies demonstrating that people are motivated to share information about a rival when it has greater potential to thwart their rival’s mating attempts. I argue that this pattern of findings is indicative of psychological mechanisms for derogating mating rivals. In Chapter 3, I provide two studies that examine sex differences in reactions to victimization of online aggression, which we predicted from evolved defenses for competitor derogation for mates. In Chapter 4, I apply theories derived from mate competition to study competition for friends and strategies to defend relationships from third-party interlopers (i.e., friend poachers). I develop and validate measures for friend attraction, retention, and poaching. In doing so, I demonstrate that tactics used in competition for friends overlap with those used for mate competition (e.g., competitor derogation) and highlight tactics unique to friendships (e.g., including an interloper in one’s social network).
- Published
- 2019