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This research aims to find out how the parenting pattern is conducted by Indonesian women who experience mixed marriage where they marry foreign men and live in their husbands’ countries. The research method used is Qualitative with Phenomenological approach. Using Purposive Sampling Technique, five Indonesian women were gathered as informants where 3 of them live in Europe : The United Kingdom, The Netherlands and Germany while 2 others live in Canada. Data collection was conducted using online questionnaire and semi-structured interviews to be further analysed using Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis (IPA) to reveal in detail how participants interpreted their personal and social worlds. The results show that participants conduct Democratic parenting style; a combination of appreciation for the individuality of the children and efforts to shape social values gradually. This parenting pattern was formed by building an agreement with their husbands towards their own religions and Indonesian cultures. The country provision and protection of children aged 18 to have the rights to live separately from their parents has encouraged participants to conduct some particular standards for their children. Additionally, the results show that participants managed to conduct similar parenting style held by their parents.

This research was motivated by the phenomenon that is currently occuring in today s Indonesian society that is marriage across the nation. The purpose of this study were: 1) To understand the conflicts that occur with in mixed marriage. 2) And to know how to manage conflict from various problems that arise. The employedapproach is qualitative case study . The main subjects are two married couples of different nationalities as well as supporting informants that consists of two Household Assistants marriage couples with different citizenship. The results of the research note that each pair of different citizenship has a communication model that can be used to manage conflict that is arising. When there is a conflict they will identify each other's problems, then they will give each other solutions to solve the problem, then they will make a commitment to the conflict so that it does not happen again. They already feel a very complicated conflict to resolve, but they can still continue their marriage by putting aside such complicated matters.

Mix marriage as regulated in Article 57 Law Number 1 of 1974 concerning marriage that is committed by a couple with different nationality. The Nationality of the Republic of Indonesia in Law Number 12 of 2006, is explained that children as the result of mix marriage can have double nationalities but limited. The process of communication that is using in the mixing marriage is the process of intercultural communication. In establishment of an interpersonal communication between eastern culture and western culture. This communication takes place not just for a day or two, but takes place during the stay of foreign citizens and citizens relations with in Indonesia. The patterns of children's education is one of the problems that often occur in mixed marriages. Most of the mixing marriage used the foreign pattern of their child's education. This is because foreigners want their children get an education equivalent to the education of the country of origin may be obtained. The results showed that the process of intercultural communication can be well-established and effective among the four mixed marriage couples. Overall informants seeks to honor and respect for cultural differences in their marriage.They tried to blend and merge with the cultur of their partner.Changes in view of the world (religion,values,and behaviors) on minorities and chose to follow the beliefs of the dominant partner.

The promulgation of Law No 12 Year 2006 about Republic Indonesia of Citizenship executing dual citizenship to children of mixed marriage gives impact to International Civil Law in which they have to obey to the law of two different countries. The raising problem in the International Civil Law is which law can be used to give their personal status. The solution used by children who have dual citizenship is since they have habitual residence inIndonesiaautomatically they are the citizenship ofIndonesiaand the law ofIndonesiaused to give their personal status. On the other hand, those who have habitual residence in overseas country, they are considered as foreigners. Inheritances rights of land and house are the proprietary can be changed become use rights.