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Yes we can! Wenn wir keine Angst vor einem NEIN haben Yes we can! Wenn wir keine Angst vor einem NEIN haben Jia Jiang hat einen Traum: Er will der nächste Bill Gates werden. Er geht in die USA, um seine Karriere zu starten, doch für den großen Durchbruch hat er zu viel Angst vor einer Abfuhr. Um dies zu ändern und seine Furcht zu überwinden, wagt er ein außergewöhnliches Experiment: Er begibt sich freiwillig in 100 komplett absurde Situationen, die mit großer Wahrscheinlichkeit mit einer Ablehnung enden werden und filmt sich dabei. Auf diese Weise lüftet Jia das Geheimnis, wie man eine Bitte mit Erfolg vorträgt, die richtigen Leute zum richtigen Zeitpunkt anspricht und wie ein anfängliches Nein ins Positive gewendet werden kann. Vor allem aber lernt er, Zurückweisungen nicht mehr persönlich zu nehmen und sich Herausforderungen selbstbewusst und mit einer guten Portion Resilienz zu stellen. Die Strategien, die Jia dabei entwickelt, lassen sich in jeder kritischen Verhandlung einsetzen – ob beruflich oder privat. Schenken Sie mir zehn Dollar? Nein.Darf ich Ihnen die Haare schneiden? Nein.Darf ich im Flugzeug die Sicherheitshinweise verlesen? Nein, aber Sie dürfen die Passagiere begrüßen.Darf ich in Ihrem Garten Fußball spielen? Ja.

The fear of abandonment is one of our most primal fears, and deservedly so. Its pain is often overwhelming, and can leave its mark on the rest of your life. In the midst of the hurt, it's hard to see an end to your feelings of rejection, shame, and betrayal. In this updated edition of the groundbreaking book, Susan Anderson, a therapist who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than thirty years, shares recent discoveries in neuroscience that help put your pain in perspective. It is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups—whether you are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether you are caught up in patterns that sabotage your own relationships, or you're in a relationship in which you no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery. Going beyond comforting words to promote real change, this healing process will help you work through the five universal stages of abandonment—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, lifting—by understanding their biochemical and behavioral origins and implications. New hands-on exercises for improving your life will teach you how to manage the inevitable pain, then go on to build a whole new concept of self, increase your capacity for love, and find new love on a deeper and richer level than ever before.

You're ready for a new romance, but how can you avoid repeating past mistakes? The author of Getting Past Your Breakup offers an essential guide to building a healthy relationship. Plenty of dating books offer advice on how to flirt or catch someone's eye, but they won't help you make better decisions during the selection process so you can find real love. Based on years of research and work with her own clients, Susan Elliott offers a proven plan that will help you to: Examine past relationships for unfinished business and negative patterns Identify warning signs and red flags Keep your standards and boundaries high, even when you're head over heels Work through rejection, rebounding, and other bumps in the road Decide when to take a relationship to the next level and when to say goodbye With practical rules, strategies, and self-assessments -- including tips for dating as a parent and dating online -- Getting Back Out There will help you transition from your split to a happy, healthy new relationship.

A proven plan for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, including divorce, with practical strategies for healing, getting your confidence back, and finding true love It's over--and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of people transform their love lives. Now in Getting Past Your Breakup, she'll help you put your energy back where it belongs--on you. Her plan includes:The rules of disengagement: how and why to go'no contact'with your exHow to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your lifeThe secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationshipsWhat to do when you can't stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house

'Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out.'-Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for the emotionally abusive relationship'In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse... helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse.'-Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse'This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them.'-Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to do about it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is for you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in each other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert guidance and support you need.