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'That isn't what I meant!'Truly listening and being heard is far from simple, even between people who care about each other. This perennial bestseller--now revised and updated for the digital age--analyzes how any conversation can go off the rails and provides essential skills for building mutual understanding. Thoughtful, witty, and empathic, the book is filled with vivid stories of couples, coworkers, friends, and family working through tough emotions and navigating differences of all kinds. Learn ways you can: •Hear what people mean, not just what they say. •Share a difference of opinion without sounding dismissive. •Encourage uncommunicative people to open up. •Make sure both sides get heard in heated discussions. •Get through to someone who never seems to listen. •Ask for support without getting unwanted advice. •Reduce miscommunication in texts and online. From renowned therapist Michael P. Nichols and new coauthor Martha B. Straus, the third edition reflects the huge impact of technology and social media on relationships, and gives advice for talking to loved ones across social and political divides

Discover the three types of love--and the key to finding the one you're truly meant to be with.We love and we love again -- sometimes our hearts get broken but, somehow, we find the courage to dive back in. In this soul-searching book, relationship expert Kate Rose guides readers down the path to a deeper understanding of who they are, what they want, and finally, to the discovery of their Twin Flame. According to Rose, love is a journey of self-discovery and every relationship we have in our lives teaches us something that we need to learn about ourselves and what will make us truly happy. She introduces readers to the three types of love we will all experience:The Soulmate introduces us to the dream of love, but somehow what seemed like it would be'happily ever after'wasn't meant to last forever. We are so consumed with making The Karmic Love work that we often fail to question whether it should work. As painful as it is to accept, this love that felt so right in the beginning is actually all wrong.The Twin Flame comes into our lives and often we don't even know it's love because... it's too easy. This is the love who helps us to accept ourselves just as we are because this is precisely what they do. In You Only Fall in Love Three Times, Kate Rose shows us that happy endings may not happen quite the way they do in fairytales-- but they happen nonetheless.

Do you feel like you're a'pushover'? Do you let other people make all the plans--letting them pick the movie, the restaurant, or the vacation destination? Does self-care feel selfish to you? And do you find yourself feeling resentful toward others because they don't seem to take your needs into consideration?Can you relate? If the answer is yes, this is the book for you!In this book, master coach, speaker, and author Nancy Levin will help you establish clear and healthy boundaries. This isn't easy; many of us don't want to'rock the boat.'We assume setting boundaries will lead to conflict. And, unfortunately, by avoiding conflict and not setting limits, we tend to choose long-term unhappiness instead of short-term discomfort.This book includes exercises and practical tools to help even the most conflict-averse, people-pleasing readers learn new habits. You'll learn how to recognize and take inventory of your boundaries, view your boundaries differently by creating a Boundary Pyramid, learn how to say'no'effectively, and set your Bottom-Line Boundary. As your supportive guide, Nancy will show you how to gather the courage to live a life of'boundary badassery.''This work was life-changing for me, and if you're someone who has avoided boundaries for years, it can change your life, too.'-- Nancy Levin

This'profoundly wise'look at how to foster connections, attachment, and resiliency explains why working through discord is the key to better relationships. (Sue Johnson, bestselling author of Hold Me Tight)You might think that perfect harmony is the defining characteristic of healthy relationships, but the truth is that human interactions are messy, complicated, and confusing. And according to renowned psychologist Ed Tronick and pediatrician Claudia Gold, that is not only okay, it is actually crucial to our social and emotional development. In The Power of Discord they show how working through the inevitable dissonance of human connection is the path to better relationships with romantic partners, family, friends, and colleagues.Dr. Tronick was one of the first researchers to show that babies are profoundly affected by their parents'emotions and behavior via'The Still-Face Experiment.'His work, which brought about a foundational shift in our understanding of human development, shows that our highly evolved sense of self makes us separate, yet our survival depends on connection. And so we approximate, iteratively learning about one another's desires and intentions, and gaining confidence in the process as we correct the mistakes and misunderstandings that arise.Working through the volley of mismatch and repair in everyday life helps us form deep, lasting, trusting relationships, resilience in times of stress and trauma, and a solid sense of self in the world. Drawing on Dr. Tronick's research and Dr. Gold's clinical experience, The Power of Discord is a refreshing and original look at our ability to relate to others and to ourselves.

“Touching.” —The New York Times For fans of Humans of New York and PostSecret, a collection of raw, urgent, and heartfelt stories, shared anonymously.Helena Dea Bala was an exhausted and isolated DC lobbyist, suffocating under the weight of her student loan debt, when she decided to split her lunch with a man who often panhandled near her office. They chatted effortlessly as they ate; there were no half-truths or white lies, and no fear of judgment. Helena felt connected and unburdened in a way she hadn't in years. Inspired, she posted an ad on Craigslist promising to listen, anonymously and for free, to whatever the speaker felt he or she couldn't tell anyone else. Emails from people desperate to connect flooded her inbox, and she listened. Within months, Helena quit her job, deferred her loans, and dove into listening full time. The forty first-person confessions in this book are vivid, intimate, and real; they range from devastating traumas, to lost loves, to reflections on hard choices. Some accounts are quotidian, like that of one increasingly estranged husband: “I want to feel that we're not just roommates—that we're not just waiting for the kids to grow up so that we can move on.” Others are deeply disconcerting, like that of a sex addict employed by a religious organization and several are heartening, like that of a mother who dares to hope that her daughter, born with life-threatening heart defects, will one day walk down the aisle: “Sometimes you need to have the audacity to believe that it will all be okay, that it is okay to have the same kinds of dreams as everyone else.” In its complex portrayal of the common human experience, Craigslist Confessional challenges us to explore the depths of our vulnerability and expand the borders of our empathy.

In this innovative and user-friendly guide, Crystal Wilhite Hemesath identifies the factors that lead to relationship breakdown and suggests key strategies for the prevention and treatment of falling out of romantic love (FORL). Grounded in research and two decades of clinical experience, Falling Out of Romantic Love outlines strategies for preparing and maintaining healthy, enduring, romantic relationships as well as what to do when FORL becomes a threat. Applicable to daily life, and relevant to a wide range of scenarios, this book contains a plethora of information for individuals just beginning an intimate partner relationship, long-married couples, or for those simply curious about romantic relationships and the problems that may arise. Helpful tips are also provided for individuals trying to decide if they should remain in a relationship and for those experiencing heartbreak on the receiving end of FORL.Rich in real-life examples, this book arms professionals with a greater understanding of why people fall out of romantic love. It's an indispensable guide for marriage and family therapists, as well as other mental health professionals or clergy looking to incorporate additional tools and clinical interventions into their work.

With more than 50% of marriages ending in divorce, it is essential to learn how to create and maintain a conscious relationship. So many of our relationships don't survive due to early childhood wounds that are carried into our adult relationships, then acted out in an effort to resolve conflicts from our families of origin. We choose our partners more often for unconscious reasons, not realizing that we hire them to give us the worst nightmare possible in order to resove our early conflicts-then we fire them for doing exactly what we hire them for. I Hate the Man I Love, brings our unconscious process into our conscious awareness so we can learn how to enjoy, appreciate and integrate the feeling of love and hate.

ARE YOUR POSSESSIONS TRASHING YOUR LOVE LIFE? In this book, Suzanne Roynon shows you how stuff can trap you in relationship misery. If you're single or your romantic relationship simply isn't working out, using the Interiors Therapy process will transform your experience. Suzanne explains: How certain possessions impact on love Evaluating clutter is only part of the problem Activating change in nine key parts of your life Recognising the power of positive intention Transforming romance with your Manifesto for Love™ Become enlightened both physically and emotionally to inspire the loving relationship you deserve.

Millions follow radio talk show host Dr. Laura Schlessinger as she offers no-nonsense advice infused with a strong sense of ethics, accountability, and personal responsibility. In her newest book, Love & Life, Dr. Laura dives into the controversial topics and thorniest problems that face today's parents and grandparents, husbands and wives, men and women, and everyone seeking love, fulfillment, success—or simply anyone who wants to be a decent and productive human being. With her trademark provocative, firm, but always thought-provoking and values centered advice, Dr. Laura provides guidance that will inspire readers to be the very best they can be. Based on the tough-love advice from the calls and letters Dr. Laura receives, Love & Life will provide solutions to every situation that modern life can present including: Dating, Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage Parenting, Grandparenting & Blended Families Honesty & Personal Responsibility Standing Up for Faith & Beliefs Let Dr. Laura help you take back the power in your relationships—happiness will follow!

A fresh approach to matters of the heart, Relationships offers practical skills and new attitudes for a more mature vision of love. Since around 1750, we have been living in the era of Romanticism, which has shaped the way we approach love, marriage, and sex. When it comes to love, this book argues, Romanticism has been a disaster. Full of real-life examples, lively humor, and cultural anecdotes, Relationships teaches us: That love and sex may not always go together (and that's OK)That discussing money early on, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of loveThat acknowledging respective flaws can be a couple's superpowerThat we will never find everything we need in another personThat spending two hours discussing whether bathroom towels should be hung up or can be left on the floor has its own dignityWith wisdom, wit, and compassion, this innovative guide paves the way to a new, brighter future for love.LEARN THE SKILL OF LOVE a refreshing, skills-based take on how to approach relationships.PRACTICAL RELATIONSHIP ADVICE that challenges many preconceived assumptions.HARDCOVER WITH RIBBON MARKER beautifully produced, premium gift format.

Navigate the challenges of a blended family with children to fortify your marriage for lasting happiness and understanding. The Happy Stepcouple is a comprehensive and practical self-help book designed to help couples with children from prior relationships thrive despite the complexity of stepfamily life. More than two thirds of stepcouple relationships break up within the first few years of committing to each other. With these terrible odds, every stepcouple needs an arsenal of tools necessary to sustain a loving relationship. The Happy Stepcouple gives them everything they need to navigate complex stepfamily dynamics with confidence and kindness, allowing them to build a happy, fulfilling life together.Drawing on the insights and strategies developed from the author's 30 years of working as a marriage and family therapist specializing in treating stepfamilies, this work also includes the personal accounts of many stepcouples who describe their stepfamily problems along with how they handled them.Utilizing the most current research in attachment theory, psychology, communication, and marriage and family therapy, Rachelle Katz offers a grounded approach to overcoming problems stepcouples experience by examining the two primary reasons why so many of these relationships get in trouble: Partners'inability to understand, agree to, and fulfill each other's unspoken needs and expectations, and communication styles during conflicts that increase each partner's insecurity levels and weakens their emotional connection to each other. Both of these factors fray emotional bonds—bonds that already are stressed by stepfamily challenges. Here, stepcouples learn how to establish realistic stepfamily expectations as well as identify and modify harmful communication patterns, essential elements needed to strengthen their emotional bond.

The stories, questions, and aftermath of relationships, from real people around the world. Romance is hard work. It can also be exhilarating, amusing, weird, crazy, and simply exhausting. We've all had our share of awkward and uncomfortable dates (and some amazing ones) as well as mystifying and confusing break-ups.Born out of the viral KoreVoices storytelling project, thousands of stories have poured in from all over the world. The submissions cover every aspect of dating—crushes, heartbreak, uncertainty, guilt, a never-ending array of bizarre situations, and the long road to healing.Technology is playing an enormous role in changing the way we meet, date, and interact with one another. It has forced people to think differently and expect the unexpected anytime they step out for a date. This book tells the story of modern-day romance through the words of those who are experiencing it first-hand.

Celebrity coach and speaker Tony A. Gaskins shares proven principles—gleaned from real life failures and successes—for building and sustaining a healthy relationship in today's times. Tony A. Gaskin's appearance on The Oprah Winfrey Show launched his career as a life coach and relationship counselor. After speaking about domestic violence, he felt empowered to speak his truth. Since then, Gaskin has been a faithful and committed husband for over a decade, and has counseled thousands, leading to millions following him online and making him one of America's foremost experts on love and relationships. Practical and accessible, Make It Work walks you through a series of lessons on how to maintain a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Drawing inspiration from the Bible and using his own successes and failures, Gaskins offers a framework for how you can identify the right person to settle down with, set standards which prompt longevity in love, and know what to avoid in a relationship. All this is told in his empowering and empathetic tone that his loyal and devoted following has come to love and trust. In a hopeful response to culture where breakups and divorces are all too common, Make It Work is as an essential resource to help your relationship thrive in this day and age.

New York Times #1 bestselling authors of Teaching Your Children Values and relationship experts Richard and Linda Eyre explore the eight most common myths about marriage and the truth about how to have a successful and fulfilling marriage. Exploring equality versus synergy, completion versus individual quest, harmony versus productive debate, a test drive versus constant commitment, and more, the Eyres show that popular opinions and behaviors toward successful marriages actually reduce the chance of marriage fulfillment. Drawing on more than fifty years of marriage and hundreds of interviews across the world, The 8 Myths of Marriaging is a must-read book for anyone considering marriage or currently nurturing their marriage of many years.

The fault lines that can fracture a marriage are all contained in these six words: FAMILIARITY, FIGHTING, FAMILY, FINANCES, FOOLING AROUND AND FINDING HELP. It's time to get to know your F words. Using the latest scientific research, personal anecdotes and expert advice, award-winning journalist Belinda Luscombe argues that marriage is good for your health, your finances and your happiness. But it isn't always easy! Focusing on what Belinda describes as her F words, she presents facts, debunks myths, and provides an entertaining mix of data, anecdotes and wisdom from a wide range of approaches to married life, drawing on the work of experts from within the marriage and divorce industries. A brilliant guide to staying together, Marriageology offers helpful advice and gives readers something to think about whether your marriage is on the brink of collapse or just needs a bit of maintenance.

Find the balance between tough love and tender love. In The Two Sides of Love, best-selling authors John Trent and Gary Smalley explain how to find a healthy balance between the protective, consistent, “hard side” of love and the tender, understanding, “soft side” of love.This is the groundbreaking book that introduced the four “animal” personality types (Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, and Beaver) and it will show you how to best demonstrate both sides of love in all your relationships—with your spouse, children, and friends. Included in this thoroughly updated edition is a free online assessment of your core personality type.This updated edition is a helpful tool for personal growth, small group studies, and couples'classes.

A vital guide to overcome the barriers to achieving intimacy and meaningful connection.People in resilient relationships are co-owners, experience reciprocity, and are better prepared to meet challenges authentically and effectively. In this sequel to the best-selling Irrelationship, the authors use examples from their clinical practice to review the concept of irrelationship and expand the DREAM Sequence, a tool used by affected couples to address perennial relationship issues.By mutually and mindfully viewing the relationship as a third entity, separate from each individual, couples will learn how to live in and with the ambiguity of empathy, intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional investment and view relationship sanity as a deliberate and joyful undertaking to maintain and deepen connection.

'Breaking Up & Bouncing Back tackles heartbreak in a whole new way, using neuroscience and modern dating advice to inspire you to become a smarter dater.'— John Gray, New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus'In Breaking Up & Bouncing Back, the brilliant Samantha Burns will help you to transform your worst breakup pain into your biggest golden opportunity for growth. This book will support you to not just get through it, but to use this experience as a catalyst to thrive in life moving forward.'— Katherine Woodward Thomas, New York Times bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even AfterSamantha Burns,'The Millennial Love Expert,'shows how to survive a soul-crushing breakup and bounce back to a healthy, happy dating life in this go-to guide for today's dating landscape. Burns teaches readers the critical coping and self-care survival skills to get them off the emotional roller coaster, to see the silver lining of their breakup, and to become smarter, more intentional daters. Her therapeutic tools assist in managing the devastation stemming from heartbreak, modifying thoughts and emotions, and practicing self-reflection in order to become empowered and open to rediscovering love.　Some examples of Burns's kick-butt breakup tools include:　Therapeutic exercises that track progressMeditation, mantras, and deep-breathing exercises to help stop obsessive thinking and control racing thoughtsCognitive behavioral therapy techniques to manage negative thinking and challenge dating fearsCore value questions for self-reflection and conversation with a future partner　In a uniquely reader-friendly way, Burns explains the neuroscience of a breakup, supported with the latest psychological research by peers such as Dr. Helen Fisher, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Brené Brown. Relatable, educating, and entertaining, Burns's guidance helps readers re-enter the dating market with more confidence and self-awareness, as well as a realistic vision of their perfect match.

Do you feel broken or lost? Are you trapped by fear, loneliness, and heartache, but unable to see a way out? Are you unhappy in your relationships, and without a solution to make things right? If you are searching for answers to all of your struggles, Vladimire Calixte's Naked and Transparent: Six Vital Tools for Knowing Yourself and Attracting Healthy Relationships can help you reclaim your life and help you attract more love, success, peace, and joy than you've ever imagined! Filled with personal experiences about love, loss, and abandonment, Naked goes beyond a traditional self-help book. It is a refreshing, honest, and stimulating experience that will help you open your heart and soul, and discover a brand-new you! Part workbook and part memoir, Naked is an enjoyable yet informative must-read for women, men, and teens who suffer from low self-esteem, unworthiness, anxiety, shame, guilt, feelings of failure, and toxic relationships.

“Anyone grappling with the bewilderment of midlife…will be at once provoked and comforted by this enormously wise book” (Dani Shapiro, New York Times bestselling author of Hourglass: Time, Memory, Marriage), from a psychologist who has worked for decades with people struggling to preserve and enhance their marriages and long-term relationships.People today are trying to make their marriages work over longer lives than ever before. But staying married isn't always easy. In the brilliant, transformative, and optimistic The Rough Patch, clinical psychologist Daphne de Marneffe explores the extraordinary pushes and pulls of midlife marriage, where our need to develop as individuals can crash headlong into the demands of our relationships. “A book of good intentions and helpful advice and a worthy manual for spouses” (Kirkus Reviews), The Rough Patch addresses common problems: money, alcohol and drugs, the stresses of parenthood, sex, extramarital affairs, lovesickness, health, aging, children leaving home, and dealing with elderly parents. Then, de Marneffe offers seasoned wisdom on these difficulties, explaining the psychological, emotional, and relational capacities we must cultivate to overcome them as individuals and as couples. Blending research, interviews, and clinical experience, de Marneffe dives deep into the workings of love and the structures of relationships. Intimate and always illuminating, The Rough Patch is an essential, compassionate resource for people trying to understand “where they are” on the continuum of marriage, giving them a chance to share in other people's stories and struggles. “De Marneffe writes with poetry, wit, and compassion about the necessity of struggle in the quest for true love. Anyone in any relationship at any stage of life could stand to learn from the wisdom in these pages” (Andrew Solomon, National Book Award-winning author of Far from the Tree).

People have been sharing their life stories with psychologist Allison Keating for the past eighteen years, and the words she hears most often are'I feel overwhelmed,'followed by'I thought I'd have it figured out by now.'Adulthood is tough. As we try to divide ourselves between our partner, children, parents, siblings, friends and colleagues, it is no wonder we can feel overwhelmed, often neglecting the most important relationship of all – the one we have with ourselves.The Secret Life of Adults invites you to audit and improve your seven key relationships, looking at how the experiences of your past impact on who you are today.Ask yourself: - Who are you in your relationships? - Are they supportive, nourishing and empowering – or draining and filled with anxiety? - Is there a big gap between your public and private self? - What are your expectations of others and of yourself? - Do you understand why you react to certain comments from family or friends? - Do you repeat patterns of behaviour in your relationships?The Secret Life of Adults has exercises and techniques to help you get to know yourself better and understand why you behave as you do in each part of your life, allowing you to unlock the secret to less stressful and more meaningful relationships.

“If you're at the end of your relationship rope, reach for Radical Acceptance.” —Elle A refreshing new approach to romantic partnerships, grounded in the importance of unconditional love that shows how “prioritizing your partner [creates] true happiness in your relationship” (John Gray, PhD, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus).Loving the lovable parts of your partner is easy. He's funny, charming, smart, successful, and kind. He's perfect. Except for when he is not. Like when he is late. Or short-tempered. Or lazy. Or he's incorrectly loaded the dishwasher (again). Maybe he feels like the most frustrating person on the planet. Or maybe you're simply not feeling heard or seen. Or loved enough. It's these proverbial unlovable parts that make loving all of him so tough. But imagine if you let go of your itch to fix, judge, improve, or control your partner. Imagine if you replaced judgement with compassion and empathy. Tremendous empowerment and liberation come from loving someone—and being loved—for who we really are. This practice is called Radical Acceptance. Whether you're looking for Mr. Right or are already with him, this is your powerful five-step guide to attaining life's ultimate prize: unconditional love. You'll learn how to increase your emotional resilience, feel more confident, determine whether you're settling, quiet those doubt-filled voices in your head, get out of that endless cycle of dead-end dates, reduce conflict, and build a deeply fulfilling, affirming relationship—all through highly actionable advice. Best of all, you will discover how amazing it feels to have your heart expanded by an abundance of love and compassion for your partner and yourself. Featuring compelling stories for real-life couples and insights from the foremost thought leaders and researchers in brain science, sexuality, psychotherapy, and neurobiology, Radical Acceptance illustrates that embracing your partner for exactly who they are will lead to a more harmonious relationship—and provide an unexpected path to your own personal transformation.

'The Jealousy Cure unlocks the positive power of jealousy for happy relationships.'—Foreword Reviews'Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets.'—Library Journal starred review​Could jealousy be a positive thing? In this groundbreaking book, Robert L. Leahy—author of the hugely popular self-help guide, The Worry Cure—invites you to gain a greater understanding of your jealous feelings, keep jealousy from hijacking your life, and create healthier relationships.We've all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we've even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It's hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone's jealousy. But what if jealousy isn't just a neurotic weakness? What if it signals that your relationship matters to you? In short—what if jealousy serves a purpose?In The Jealousy Cure, renowned psychologist Robert L. Leahy takes a more nuanced approach to tackling feelings of jealousy. In this compelling book, you'll uncover the evolutionary origins of jealousy, and how and why it's served to help us as a species. You'll also learn practices based in emotional schema theory, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness to help you overcome the shame jealousy can bring, improve communication with your partner, and ultimately make room for jealousy while also making your relationship more meaningful. You will learn that confronting jealousy in your relationship does not have to be a catastrophe, but can redirect you and your partner to build more trust, acceptance, and connection.We often feel jealous because we fear losing the things or people that matter to us the most. With this insightful guide, you'll discover how jealousy can both help and hurt your relationship, and learn proven-effective skills to keep jealousy in its place.This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation— an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

Failure is failure. I had failed… miserably! I suck at break-ups but who doesn't? I was the guy next door who “had it all together!” But that's not what goes on inside. My experience had shame written all over it, a significant departure from the person I thought I was. Failing emotionally started a journey filled with the very real pain of heartbreak and the smothering cloud of depression. I discovered what vulnerability really was and how my generation ran from it. Search your own heart and find those scars. They never really heal but they become a better part of us. To get through a day you sometimes need some assurance that you are not alone. For those who need to know there is another day worth living, you're welcome to share this journey.

No one likes a know-it-all, but everyone loves a girl with brains and heart. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory is an intelligent and comprehensive guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of alternative love, offering relationship advice radically different from anything you'll find on the magazine rack.This practical guidebook will help women break free of the mold of traditional monogamy, without the constraints of jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, and competition. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory incorporates interviews and real-world advice from women of all ages in nontraditional relationships, as well as exercises for building self-awareness, confidence in communication, and strategies for managing and eliminating jealousy. If you're curious about exploring group sex, opening up your current monogamous relationship, or ready to “come out” as polyamorous, this book covers it all!Whether you're a seasoned graduate, a timid freshman, or somewhere in between, you'll learn how to discover and craft unique relationships that are healthy, happy, sexy, and tailor-made for you. Because when it comes to your love life, being a know-it-all is actually a great thing to be.

Turn Your Pain from Breakup into an Opportunity to Grow toward True LoveAfter her devastating breakup, counselor Rebekah Freedom McClaskey became inspired by her work in the field of addiction recovery to craft a safe, step-by-step path to forging healthy relationships based on honesty, love, integrity, and trust. Breakup Rehab addresses post-breakup chaos, providing clarity and direction so that your next relationship will be your best relationship.This wise, real-world, and often humorous guide acknowledges the state of grief or resignation that comes with a breakup and then walks you through the stages of forgiveness and letting go. Along the way, you'll experience a more compassionate self-awareness as you rebuild self-confidence and learn how to be loved for who you truly are. These steps will propel you forward on your unique path, as you recognize your life's purpose and then travel toward well-being and a love that will set you free.

How can newlyweds believe they will be together forever, while knowing that the majority of marriages end in divorce? Why do people who desperately want to be loved end up alienating those who love them? How can partners that seem like complete opposites end up blissfully happy? This volume explores such fascinating questions. Murray and Holmes outline how basic motivations to be safe from being hurt and find value and meaning control how people feel, think, and behave in close relationships. Additionally, the authors highlight how these motivations infuse romantic life through succinct and accessible descriptions of cutting-edge empirical research and vivid evolving stories of four couples confronting different challenges in their relationship. Integrating ideas from the interdependence, goals, and embodiment literatures, this book puts a provocative new spin on seminal findings from two decades of collaborative research. The book: provides a new, interdependence-based, perspective on motivated cognition in close relationships; advances a dyadic perspective that explores how motivation shapes perception and cognition in ways that result in motivation-consistent behavior; examines how'goal-driven'cognition translates a person's wishes, desires, and preferences into judgement and behavior, and ultimately, his or her romantic partner's relationship reality; offers a refreshing argument that the ultimate effects of motivated cognition on satisfaction and stability depend on whether the motivations which most frequently guide perception and cognition match the reality constraints imposed by the perceiver, the partner, and the characteristics of the relationship. This book is essential for social and personality psychologists and will also be valuable to clinical psychologists and clinicians who work directly with couples to effect more happy and stable relationships. Advanced undergraduate and graduate students will find it a highly engaging compendium for understanding how motivation shapes affect, cognition, and behavior in close relationships.

Stop struggling and start loving again. Would you like to have a relationship built on love and trust? International author, entrepreneur, leading relationship expert and clinical psychologist Jacqui Christie shares her ground breaking techniques in this powerful book'Rewire Your Relationship'. In this book, Jacqui will show you how to truly understand your partner and resolve the conflict between your head and your heart. You will discover how to develop a deep and profound appreciation for each other, and experience more balance, harmony and joy in your relationship than ever before. You'll learn:- How to transform your relationship into a lasting source of love, intimate connection and companionship- How to empower each other with the confidence and tools to craft make-or-break moments and weather the key stages in your relationship- How to feel safe and secure with your partner- That there IS a way to repair your connection with each other- How to understand your partner's brain and why they keep doing the things they do- Why your attachment style plays such a vital role in your relationship- What your partner needs and how to give it to them. Finally, the relationship answers you've been searching for!

“If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won't You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” —Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong “Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose, and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology'in quite the same way.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT author of Mating in Captivity Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language—I'm sorry—and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies—and why some people won't give them—for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we've inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful “I'm sorry” and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury. Why Won't You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party—the one who has been hurt by someone who won't apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.

The author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time returns with an updated guide for today's generation.Two decades ago, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus revolutionized the way we thought about love and partnership. John Gray's work has helped countless readers improve and even save their relationships. But as society evolves, relationships do, too. It's time to move beyond Mars and Venus, toward a new relationship model for modern couples.Today, men and women are no longer trapped by rigid societal roles. Now more than ever, we have the freedom to be our authentic selves. Women can access their masculine side, and men can embrace their feminine side. This new freedom is a good thing, but it also brings new challenges.Men and women still need the right tools and skills to help build stronger relation- ships. While previous generations sought'role mate'relationships, based on the more rigid gender roles of the time, today's couples need a new kind of relationship: a'soul mate'relationship. These more emotionally satisfying relationships require a deeper understanding of our partners'individual needs. In Beyond Mars and Venus, Gray teaches you how to strengthen your bond and grow in love together, so you and your loved one can meet each other's needs in the best way possible, bringing you lasting happiness and a fulfilling partnership.